The Path To Success; Put In The Work And Get The Results


It is normal that most people hold irrational self-delusions to help them function in life. I, myself, am not exempt from this fallacy. We think we are better-looking than average, smarter than average, more capable than average. We think we don’t need to put in as much effort as other unfortunate people in order to get ahead in life.

Of course in the face of harsh reality, our delusions are blown apart. But when it comes to survival, somehow this is rarely the case. I quoted jlaix before, “Every guy on the planet is convinced that he knows how to do two things: how to fight, and how to bang women.”

Evolutionarily speaking, this is a crucial belief to hold. Whether objectively true or not, if you don’t believe you are able to fight better or fuck better than the chump next to you, you and your genetic lineage is as good as dead.

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Not All Women / Men / Feminists / MRAs / Cats Are Like That

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Make a generalizable statement about any group or culture that has a negative tilt and you will most often hear the “not all _____ are like that!” defense. It is entirely within our nature to form groups, and redefine boundaries in order to associate with positive traits and disassociate from negative ones. We have a tendency to label things, to form categorizations and arrange things into neat little boxes for our brains to better process information. Too broad and labels are pointless, too specific and they become limiting.

The reality is, as arbitrary as labels are/appear to be, they are necessary in creating our identities and identifying with other people who hold similar traits. Humans are social creatures, and forming in-groups are how we, as a society, can function and prosper. However, the downside to that is that all groups have to constantly have to have enemies. There is no such thing as real peace. Our imaginary utopia where everything in homogeneous and agreeable is a fool’s goal.

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Shape Your Life With The Right People; 5 Characteristics To Look Out For


“You are the product of the five closest people in your life.”

While I often quote this maxim, I believe it only reflects half of the truth. The truth is that we do also shape the people around us in significant ways. Every little thing that people say or do either reinforces or challenges our beliefs. Therefore it is important to be aware and understand what kind of life you want and how people can reinforce your positive beliefs and challenge your negative ones, forcing you to realign to improve your life.

Here are five characteristics that you should look out for in the people that you hang out with. That’s not to say that you should completely cut out people who do not possess these characteristics, but rather, limit your interactions with them if they are not beneficial–or even detrimental–to your growth.

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Live Free; Disconnecting From The World And Taking Charge Of Your Life


“It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything.”

One of the most memorable quotes from Fight Club.

Just yesterday I was out and I stupidly misplaced my phone. The person who found it turned it off. If you could see my face the moment I realized it was gone, it would be one for the ages. I dropped everything I was doing and I dashed back to where I last remembered holding it–running through traffic, risking my life and almost getting knocked down by a car. It was one of the most harrowing experiences ever.

Everything was in my phone: my pictures, my social media accounts, my identity. My. Entire. Life. I spent the next hour trying to search for it in vain before giving up.

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Blasting Through Bad Days; Importance Of Introspection


As in all things in life, everyone will have bad days. Most of the time we can’t pinpoint the exact cause thereof. The causes of bad days may vary from poor sleep, poor performance in other areas of life, or even putting junk food in your body. The perception many people hold is that everyone is consistent all the time. They see successful people and they think they these guys never have a bad day, that they consistent produce results all day,  every day.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

The problem with this mindset is that they usually compare themselves to these guys and focus on their own lack of consistency. They think that they haven’t reached “the level they want to be” purely based on an impossible idealization.

The reality of life is: everyone has their bad days. It may last from a few hours to even months. You have to accept that life is uncaring and that things will not always go the way you want them to go.

However, it doesn’t mean that you have to sit back and just ride it out–waiting for it to end. More often than not, these bad days are self-generated and reinforced by yourself. Objectively, there are no bad days; your perception of it only makes it so.

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The Limits Of Pre-selection; Being The Selector


There is a confusing concept in the community called pre-selection which states that women will want you more if she can sense that other women want you as well. While this theory has its merits, it can be confusing when applied wrongly. The misconception results in guys surrounding them with many female friends hoping that it will make them more attractive. But this often is not the case. Pre-selection works only in specific contexts under very specific conditions; it has to go hand-in-hand with sex-worthiness.

The Fine Line

Making female friends is not really that hard, contrary to popular belief. All you have to do is come across as relatively benign and unthreatening. As long as you remain sexually passive, they will see you more like a “brother”. Even if you think you are flirting with them, they will not register your come-ons because they don’t see you as a potential mate in the first place. And when you try to push things further even the slightest towards a romantic direction, they will remind you that “you are a good friend” and “like things the way you are”.

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A Life Of Happiness, Part 2: The Freedom Exigency


A month ago I wrote on the first cornerstone of happiness. If you haven’t read that, do start with that first. Also I’ve been drafting and releasing a bunch of articles over the past few days (unlike most months) mainly because I’ve had more time to go out and start approaching again. The largely positive response is one of the reasons why I keep writing; it motivates me that I can bring value to you guys. Of course, I would like to hear from you in return–any questions or comments you may have, do leave them in the comments section below or contact me through the contact page in the navigation bar.

Back to the topic: freedom.

One of the core desires of men is to achieve freedom. Historically, our forefathers have journeyed beyond boundaries–both literally and metaphorically. Men built ships to traverse watery terrain that was uncharted by those before them. Men built planes as a giant fuck you to the laws of physics. Men invent new ideas and perspectives to see the world–expanding our minds and not just our geography. To surpass that which limits us is our true calling. And to fulfill our calling is to create a life of happiness.

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In Defense Of Singlehood: Avoid The Relationship Trap In Your Twenties


One of the main draws of learning game for most guys is the appeal of getting a girlfriend. Over the years, every time I meet a newbie and ask him what his goal is in pick-up, I can almost always expect him to say: to get a girlfriend. That’s not to say that game is solely for losers. Everyone comes in with different expectations–but what remains the same is that each of these guys realize that they have a problem, and they want to fix it. I’ve met an equal number of (if not more) delusional guys than those who are honest with themselves, and the main reason why they don’t want to get into game is because they don’t want to be a player.

It’s just another excuse to not take action. Game is skill set; how you apply it is entirely up to you. That being said, few guys are like me who end their relationships and embark on the journey. But we are all alike in the sense that we want to improve our current situation.

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Money, Looks, Or Status Won’t Make You Good With Women


I was on The Red Pill subreddit today and I saw a post titled “After years of self improvement I still don’t feel a whole lot more confident in myself. Why?” Now, this is different from what I hear from most guys because the OP has actually (according to him) put years of effort into self improvement. If you’ve only been working on your life for months and you complain about how you aren’t seeing results, usually I wouldn’t even bother commenting. All you have to do is keep going, and stop being focusing on the results. However someone who’s put in years and yet see no change does draw attention to a fundamental problem.

To summarize his post, he was an overweight guy who slimmed down, worked on building a career, is well-traveled, and has a high-value hobby (musician). Yet, he is still frightened by the thought of talking to women. He says he is happy, and tries not to give a fuck about what women think–but still thinks he is lacking confidence.

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Getting Over Heartache; Destroy That Oneitis With The Red Pill


What’s up guys. I’ve been releasing a slew of articles lately because I’ve been going out more often and meeting more guys (and girls) and just juicing lessons from all the experience. The largely positive responses to my posts are what keeps me going. Knowing that I am bringing value to you motivates me to keep writing and continuing down the path of glory.

Recently I’ve been going out with a couple of guys who have been out of the game for a while. Both of them recently ended their long term relationships and contacted me to help get them back in the game. This reminded me of back in January 2012, leading to the birth of this blog.

I had ended a 10-month relationship that was actually going pretty well. She was a girl that I genuinely had a connection with, but there was a part of me that wanted to expand beyond what I was capable of. I felt trapped and I figured it would be unfair to myself as well as her to remain in a relationship and I promptly ended it. She cut off all lines of contact with me ever since.

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