Field Report: Finding Joy In Small Successes


Recently, a reader (Xen) emailed me wanting some daygame coaching in-field. I had MC (fellow coach) take him out to the streets and do some approaches. I joined them halfway just to see how the session went and I must say it went pretty well. I've had a few people contact me asking for help but almost none of them were willing to put in the effort to take the first step to put themselves out there.

It reminded me a lot of when I first started going out and doing approaches. The first girl I opened, I was excited. Then when I managed to stop her and talk to her for five minutes, I was excited. I was also excited at the first number I got. It is by hitting all these milestones for the first time that guys realize that "Holy shit, this works! I can actually just go up to anyone I find attractive and talk to her."

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3 Phrases You Must Eliminate From Your Life


Our generation has been plagued blessed with the wonders of technology. Our smart phones offer us a world of knowledge and endless entertainment at our fingertips. We are bombarded with so much stimuli on a daily basis that it seems that we have become increasingly tolerant to the flashing lights and sounds. Just like a drug, we constantly crave novelty and increasing intensity--addicted to being stimulated from external sources that this has dulled our internal capacity for self-amusement and development.

There are three very common phrases that I hear too often, sometimes even coming from myself, that I think have to be eliminated from your life if you want to increase your productivity. Of course, one can argue that these phrases merely reflect a symptom of lack of discipline and motivation. However, while actions affect your attitude, so does attitude affect your actions. So start weaning these three phrases out of your life and soon you might see a change in your behaviors and quality of life.

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Expand Your Mind; Embrace The Complexities Of Life


What's up, guys?

I took a much-needed break in Bangkok the past week and I'm back and feeling refreshed. I've been spending a lot of time producing some new content which I hope to release shortly once they're all ready.

But for now, let's discuss something a little more for the guys who've been in the community for a while.

If you've read a ton of pickup advice and game stuff online, you'd notice that different sources tend to give different advice--some even outright contradictory. This has led to a lot of debates about what form of game is best. Indirect or direct? Comfort or attraction? Tangible value or display of value?

To answer the question...

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The One Reason Why You Struggle To Fulfill Your Resolution


I wrote an article a while back about why men in their twenties should remain single and while I still hold the same belief in my life, I don't discourage people from entering into long-term relationships. Especially among my peers who are almost all in their twenties, finding a girlfriend seems to be something they think about a lot. For some reason, being in a relationship is highly valued. One friend even remarked (in jest) that he was "better" than I am just because he was in an exclusive relationship and I wasn't. That made me curious, and so I asked him, "Why does that make you better?" We were bantering and so, naturally, he did not answer my question.

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3 Signs Of Growth To Take Into Year 2015


This year came and went in a flash. It feels like just yesterday that I entered 2014, and here I am waiting for 2015 to come. It's been a crazy year and while things have been going slow, they're still going. Lots of things have happened. People have come and gone. I've been close to rock bottom and climbed back out. Basically, life was just business as usual. And the best thing is that it's not showing any signs of stopping, which is a good thing.

Just the other night a friend asked me which year since I embarked on my journey to self-development did I find I grew the most. I blurted out that it was 2013, but upon careful consideration, there really wasn't an answer. Every year was different, with different focuses and priorities. It is honestly hard to choose one. What's important, however, is that one never stops.

As I sit here and think about my life, my friends, and the conversations I've had with people with whom I've had the fortune of crossing paths with, I want to share my thoughts on growth (which is a cornerstone of happiness) and hope that it will help you as reflect upon your own life.

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A Life Of Happiness, Part 3: The Presence Desideratum


If you guys haven't heard about Navigating Social Relationships yet, you're missing out. They write a bunch of really solid tips on dating and self-development. I recently wrote a guest article for them as well. Read it here. And I'm also proud to have my post translated into Portuguese by a reader from Brazil. I don't understand a word but I trust he did a good job. All in all, it's exciting times for TSL and based on all the positive (as well as constructively negative) feedback, I will continue to improve and evolve the blog. Do leave your thoughts in the comments section. I can promise that this blog will remain free and of the best quality. But remember, information without action is dead.

Also, If you haven't read the previous two articles in the series, or you read it a long time ago and need a refresher, do check those out first here and here. Today I will dive into the third and final cornerstone of how to achieve happiness if your life, something which is the "chief end" of all human endeavor (as according to Aristotle), yet seems to elude us so. Before going into the the topic of presence, a thought crossed my mind during a recent meditation session that made a lot of sense to me.

Happiness is a mirage: it brings hope to the desolate but eludes those who seek it.

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Psychological Projection: How We Delude Ourselves


Game has often been referred to as an "art" (i.e., pick up  artistry, or the art of seduction). However in recent years we see it gradually shifting into the scientific circle, as the line between art and science starts to meld together as well. While it is not a natural science in itself--unless you're talking evolutionary biology--it can come under the umbrella of social science. The point being, there has been an increasing number of empirical evidence which supports the theories which game practitioners have been hypothesizing since the days of Mystery. Neil Strauss, David X, and the other pioneers could be referred to as the empirical scientists, taking their hypotheses and field testing it--very much unlike the "theoretical scientists" of today, who seem to form the majority of new dating coaches who seem to be popping up these days.

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Be Taken Seriously; Speak With Authority And Confidence


Growing up, one thing I remembered that really frustrated me was how no one ever took me seriously. In my teenage years, I was placed in a class that one would describe as studious. Despite my love for knowledge, my rebellious nature proved far more influential which resulted in me neglecting my studies. I hated competing for grades and if there was one thing that my peers valued was who could score more marks for exams. My rebellious nature coupled with a fairly unexceptional personality (I was what you can describe as an in-betweener) resulted in a lack of respect from my peers.

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No Honor Among Liberals


It's been weeks since the Julien Blanc saga exploded and after a long period of silence, Blanc finally agreed to an interview with none other than news giant, CNN. It's saddening to see that Julien caved to the pressure. I probably would as well, though, if I was being hounded and sent death threats. However in the interview, Julien basically let the interviewer beat him down so bad I'm not sure he can recover after this. If you haven't watched it, here it is:

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